Right Now

Right Now

"If you are depressed, you are living in the past. If you are anxious you are living in the future. If you are at peace you are living in the present”. — Lao Tzu

I have written before about living in the moment. Worrying about the future is pointless, because 99% of the time, what you are worrying about probably isn't going to happen. It is so easy for our minds to run away from us. We start obsessing over an idea or thought and then it has a snowball effect where it consumes your mind. When I start worrying about something, I have been reminding myself that it hasn't happened yet, so why worry? It seems like such a simple concept, but living in the future and worrying about it isn’t going to get you anywhere TODAY, in the present. Depression is something that I've had to deal with for a long time. However, I have realized along the way that yes, it's important to remember the past and those in it, but the past is the past and there is nothing we can do to change it. Dwelling on the loss of a loved one or being sad about something that happened in the past is not going to get you anywhere TODAY, in the present. I find that true peace is just living in the present. Casting aside all worries and memories and just taking things as they come. Not worrying about what "might" happen or what has already happened, but just enjoying the time you are given
on this earth.

By living in the present I have realized how good I have things. I have the most amazing and supportive family and group of friends. I live in my own apartment and pay my bills, clean and do anything else that comes along. I am so blessed to have everything I have, because many other people have far less. When living in the present I realize my
great appreciation for those around me. Friendships and relationships to me are far more important than material possessions.

So, if you want to achieve peace, just take a look around you and what you have been blessed with, and say to yourself “this is good. I am happy where I am at, I am fortunate to have time on this planet." Only then will you reach a true state of peace.

Ashleigh

Reality

Reality

Today I am going to write about something that I have been working on, and hopefully it encourages you as well to try it.

The main discussion today is about staying grounded in reality. I have been extremely successful with my battle with anxiety recently, but I have noticed my thoughts getting side tracked and my thinking becoming irrational. This is where I have been learning that these anxious thoughts are just Albert trying to ruin my day. The goal is to realize that they are just thoughts and a lot of time they are irrational. For instance, last night I was troubled with anxiety but I talked to my sister in law about it, and just saying my concern out loud helped me realize that there wasn’t even a legitimate problem in the first place.

It can be so easy to lose track of reality and get caught up in worry. My tip is for you to say your anxiety out loud in a sentence, and then you can hear it and determine if it is something that you should really be worrying about. I have found that it is a great technique and brings me a lot of relief knowing that I really don’t have anything to worry about. Another realization you have to make is to realize that Albert isn’t real. These are just thoughts in your head that don’t make sense but, I know from experience, that they can be torturous. By keeping yourself aware that you can overcome these thoughts and stay in reality, you will find much success in dealing with your anxiety.

So, I encourage you to try speaking out your anxiety and remember that when an anxious thought comes in your head, really think and ask yourself if you are being rational or if your thoughts are running away from you. It can be a difficult thing to try at first, but I guarantee with practice and persistence, you will get through it.

Ashleigh