Blog Don’t doubt yourself

Don't doubt yourself

A lesson that I have been learning for the past few weeks, is to not doubt myself. I'll give you an example. I wiped down the toilet and shortly after, Albert gets in my head that I didn't sanitize it well enough. I have been challenging myself to fight the urge to go back and wipe it down again. However, there have been times where I do go back into the bathroom and wipe it down again. 99% of the time, it has only raised my anxiety even more. Water will splash on me and I will say "I knew I should have just trusted myself and not doubt what my conscious is saying" A lot of the time, that little feeling you have in the back Of your head that tells you that something is OK and you don't need to worry about it, is usually right. so, don't doubt yourself. Stick to the facts and what you know.

Don't doubt others around you either. I sometimes have problems with this. If my anxiety is particularly bad, I will phone several people for reassurance of what I'm worried about. It is something that I have been trying to learn to control and start trusting one person and leaving it at that. A lot of the time, I phone my dad and he will assure me and help me talk out the problem and that works. However, in the past I have struggled with calling 3 or 4 people asking the same question. All along, I have that little feeling in my head that what my dad says is right and that I should trust the facts that he has provided me with. I should trust reason.

So, listen to that little feeling. It's called reason. Also, challenge yourself to trust those around you and that asking one person is enough.

My sister posted a quote for me:

"There is nothing in this world that can trouble you more than your Own thoughts."

This is very true. Don't let your Albert make you do things over and over. There's also the quote that "the definition of insanity is doing something over and over and expecting different results"

Don’t doubt yourself. Don't doubt your support network. Don’t burn out your friends and family by asking the same thing over and over. If you get the anxiety in your head that you should do something you’ve already done once, listen to what your head says about it. We have reason in our head for a purpose. Usually if you keep repeating something, it will just bring up new anxieties and problems in your head. Then you start obsessing about things, your mind goes wandering and you start worrying irrationally about things that aren’t even a problem in the first place. Trust yourself and trust your support network.

Blog Self Talk

Self Talk

Today, I wanted to write about the power of self-talk. Some of you might find it funny or weird to talk to yourself, but it actually works. I talked about this coping mechanism a bit in the “anxiety" section of this site, but I thought I would elaborate a bit more.

I find a lot of times when I’m struggling with an anxiety issue, before I call anyone for instant reassurance, I just say out loud what I am worried about. An example: “my phone fell on the floor and now I’m worried that there are germs on it” when this thought is racing in your head, it may seem like the end of the world and that you need to run for the sanitizer. However, if you say your worry out loud, a lot of times it will help you realize that you are thinking a rationally and it’s not a big issue at all.

When I first started experiencing signs of anxiety and OCD several years ago, I remember one time I was home alone and the fly landed on my head. Yeah, a fly. Right away my thoughts started racing, where had that fly beam before it landed on my head? Should I wash my hair? Before I acted on these questions, I phoned my dad. It was a pretty funny conversation. “Dad, a fly landed on my head”, “a fly?”, “Ya, am I going to get sick? Should I wash my hair?” Right when I asked that, my dad and I both laughed because I realized it was such a simple thing that was not an issue at all.

I find that talking my anxieties out loud really helps me conquer them. Doing it too many times though may cause you to obsess over it, but try it once. If I state my anxiety out loud and then also stated out loud the facts, then that will shut down the anxiety. It helps eliminate the racing thoughts of panic. Let’s try it with the “dropping the phone” example: “I am worried that there are germs on the floor and now they’re on the phone. I am going to touch the phone and the germs are going to make me sick.” Now, start rationalizing those thoughts out loud”.” Dirt does not equal and germs. You have an immune system for a reason. There is nothing harmful on the floor. Your phone is dry.” And eventually it will sink into your head that their concern is not an issue at all.

It’s all about reasoning with yourself. So, instead of running to someone, for them to conquer your anxious thoughts for you, challenge yourself! Self-talk works.